My mother once told me that trauma is like Lord of the Rings. You go through this crazy, life-altering thing that almost kills you (like say having to drop the one ring into Mount Doom), and that thing by definition cannot possibly be understood by someone who hasn’t gone through it. They can sympathize sure, but they’ll never really know, and more than likely they’ll expect you to move on from the thing fairly quickly. And they can’t be blamed, people are just like that, but that’s not how it works.
Some lucky people are like Sam. They can go straight home, get married, have a whole bunch of curly headed Hobbit babies and pick up their gardening right where they left off, content to forget the whole thing and live out their days in peace. Lots of people however, are like Frodo, and they don’t come home the same person they were when they left, and everything is more horrible and more hard then it ever was before. The old wounds sting and the ghost of the weight of the one ring still weighs heavy on their minds, and they don’t fit in at home anymore, so they get on boats go sailing away to the Undying West to look for the sort of peace that can only come from within. Frodos can’t cope, and most of us are Frodos when we start out.
But if we move past the urge to hide or lash out, my mother always told me, we can become Pippin and Merry. They never ignored what had happened to them, but they were malleable and receptive to change. They became civic leaders and great storytellers; they we able to turn all that fear and anger and grief into narratives that others could delight in and learn from, and they used the skills they had learned in battle to protect their homeland. They were fortified by what had happened to them, they wore it like armor and used it to their advantage.
It is our trauma that turns us into guardians, my mother told me, it is suffering that strengthens our skin and softens our hearts, and if we learn to live with the ghosts of what had been done to us, we just may be able to save others from the same fate.
S.T.Gibson (via modernhepburn)
First time I’ve ever heard the advice, “be more like Pippin.”
1 week ago on July 17, 2014 at 04:07pm with 10,822 notes
I used to be like “I wonder what would happen if I set this thing on fire” and since then I’ve learned that more often than not the answer is “it’ll be on fire”
MARIO GOTZE SCORES IN THE 112TH MINUTE FOR GERMANY
Cannot imagine this is from a football match.
Brazilians were supporting Germany’s NT. Why? 6 months ago the germans arrived in Santa Cruz Cabrália (Bahia, Brazil) and bought a lot and built a hotel, a health center, a football field, donated an ambulance to the town, created a full-time school program in Cabralia, made a road that led to their training center, didn’t bring german employees hiring about 250 Cabrália citizens in their training center. Then the Germany NT arrived and: When not training, they socialized with the citizens in the town or in the beach, partied with the citizens, were kind to the fans always talking to them/taking pictures with them. About the win against our team: they were respectful with us, said that their idols were brazilian legends and that we shouldn’t lose our pride. They are thankful for the way they were welcome here. And they’ll donate the things they built to the population. It’s impossible not to support these guys.
Hogwarts will always be there to be completely done with your shit.
#forever grateful for oberyn martell#the only character who consistently criticised and fought and raged against the all-pervasive culture of rape & sexual sadism#and who sought retribution for the rape of his sister not because it brought dishonour to his family#or sullied her femininity#but because it was a heinous violation of a human being that got buried in silence#he was determined to give voice to it; and to keep giving voice until it couldn’t be ignored any more#to be as unflinching and ruthless and relentless as the man who brutalised the person he loved#jfc the show needed this embedded voice of resistance so badly; one voice against a tide of complicity and complacency#[this character was everything this performance was everything i’m so fucking torn up about it]
1 week ago on July 17, 2014 at 01:53pm with 54,610 notes
i wanna be one of those people who does yoga at sunrise and drinks water out of mason jars filled with berries and twigs and shit
1 week ago on July 14, 2014 at 04:27am with 1,041 notes
Germany won the twentieth World Cup, Germany won their fourth star.Götze (113')
Es ist unglaublich. Es ist ein großartiges Erlebnis. Wir hatten alle einen unglaublichen Zusammenhalt schon seit der Vorbereitung, als wir ein paar Rückschläge hatten und Spieler wie die Benders oder Marco Reus verloren haben, die aber auch Weltmeister sind. Ganz Deutschland ist Weltmeister. Ich weiß nicht, wie lange wir feiern, aber wir werden jetzt immer mit einem Grinsen aufstehen.
Manuel Neuer nach dem Spiel gegen Argentinien (via manuel-neuer-passion)
Translation: It’s unbelievable. It is a great experience. We all had an incredible togetherness since the build-up (or preparation), while we had a few setbacks and lost players like the Benders or Marco Reus, who are also world champions. The whole of Germany is world champion. I do not know how long we will be celebrating, but we will now also wake up with a grin.
☆☆ Germany - 2014 World Cup Champion ☆☆
when you play the game of thrones you either die now or die later